Be His Crown

By Kim English

"An excellent wife is the crown of her husband, but she who causes shame is like rottenness in his bones." (Proverbs 12:4)

When you think of a crown, what do you think of? I think of a King or Queen, royalty, someone important and special and rare. In reference to royalty, the crown is a symbol of his/her importance, a symbol of who they are and shows that they have authority.

Wow! How can we be that to our husbands? Common sense tells me that we should respect our husbands and love our husbands with our whole heart. We should be what helps make them greater than they are . You know the old saying: "Behind every good man is a good woman", or something like that. But what it means is that we help them to be better. We are there to encourage them when things aren't going their way, when work is stressful. We are there to encourage them to teach that Bible class or give that devotional talk or say that public prayer..... encouraging them to be the Christian man that God would have them to be.

We should not talk bad about our husbands in front of others. How many times do we hear other women doing that? Do we want our husbands going around telling all the bad things about us? Of course not. On the other hand, how special does it make us feel for our husbands to compliment us, whether alone or in front of others? Men get a morale boost when we make them look good, and it adds to their self-esteem. When they have higher self-esteem, they will strive to do and be better. And if we, their soul mates, are not going to lift them up, then who will? In the end, they will be happier men.

The Bible tells us how to treat our husbands.

"Wives, submit to your own husbands, as to the Lord. For the husband is head of the wife, as also Christ is head of the church; and He is the Savior of the body. Therefore, just as the church is subject to Christ, so let the wives be to their own husbands in everything." (Eph 5:22-24)

Especially the example of the virtuous woman of Proverbs 31.

Proverbs 31: 23 her husband is known in the gates, when he sits among the elders of the land.

Proverbs 31:25 Strength and honor are her clothing; she shall rejoice in time to come. 26 She opens her mouth with wisdom, and on her tongue is the law of kindness. 27 She watches over the ways of her household, and does not eat the bread of idleness. 28 Her children rise up and call her blessed; her husband also, and he praises her:

Her husband was obviously known as having a wife who took excellent care of the family and respected her husband. She was wise and kind. Everyone in that city knew the kind of woman that she was, and they respected him for it.

What I wanted each of us to gain from this was that people look at our families; and when they see husbands and wives who respect and love each other and lift each other up, they respect them for that. Hopefully they see that it is our devotion to God that gives us that desire to be our husband's crown. And we gain the extra benefit of better marital relationships as we strive for that goal.

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